1. IT IS PREFERRABLE NOT TO PRACTICE COITUS INTERRUPTUS..
Not
practicing coitus interruptus is preferable for a number of reasons:
First: It is harmful for the woman, since it
reduces her pleasure by cutting it short. If she agrees to it, it still
contains the following negative points.
Second: It negates part of the purpose of
marriage which is enlarging the Muslim nation through offspring, as in the
statement of the Prophet: "Marry the loving and fertile, for I
will compete with the other Prophets with the number of my
followers." [Abu Dawood, an-Nasaa'ee and others: Saheeh]. This is why the Prophet once referred
to it as "minor infanticide" (and not because it is forbidden as
infanticide is forbidden) when asked about it saying: "That is minor
infanticide". [Muslim, Ahmad and al-Baihaqi]. For this was preferable in the hadith
narrated by Abu Sa'eed al-Khudhriy saying: "Coitus Interruptus was
mentioned in the presence of the Prophet and he said: "Why would one
of you do that? (Note he did not say "let none of you do
that") Allah is the Creator of every single soul." [Muslim]. In another version, he said: "You
act and you act. There are no people destined to be from now
until the day of Qiyama but that all of them will be." [Muslim]
- WHAT THE TWO SPOUSES SHOULD INTEND WITH THEIR MARRIAGE
Both
spouses should enter into marriage with the following intentions: freeing
themselves of unfulfilled sexual desires, and protecting themselves from
falling into that which Allaah has forbidden (i.e. adultery and fornication).
What's more, a reward as the reward for sadaqa (voluntary giving of charity) is
recorded for them every time they have sex. This is based on the following
hadith of the Prohpet narrated by Abu Dharr: "Some of the companions of
the Prophet said to him: 'O Messenger of Allaah, the affluent among us have
taken the rewards (of the hereafter)! They pray as we pray, fast as we fast,
and then they give charity from the surplus of their wealth!" The
Prophet said: "Did Allaah not make for you that from which you can
give sadaqa? Verily for every time you say Subhannallah (Exalted is Allah)
there is a sadaqa, and for every time you say Allahuakbar (Allah is Most Great)
there is a sadaqa, and for every time you say Al- Hamdulillah (Praise is to
Allah) there is sadaqa, and in every act of enjoining what is right there is
sadaqa, and in every act of forbidding what is wrong there is a sadaqa, and in
your sexual relations there is a sadaqa." The Companions said: "O
Messenger of Allaah , is there a reward for one of us when he satisfies his
sexual desire?" The Prophet said: "Don't
you see, if he had satisfied it with the forbidden, would there not have been a
sin upon him?" They said: "Why, yes!” He said: "In
the same way, when he satisfies it with that which is lawful, there is for him
in that a reward." [Muslim, an- Nasaa'ee in
al-'Ishrah, and Ahamd].
- WHAT HE SHOULD DO THE MORNING AFTER HIS WEDDING NIGHT
It
is desireable for the husband to go to his relatives who came to visit him in
his house, on the following morning, to give them greetings and pray for them.
It is also desireable for them to do likewise for him, as in the following
hadith narrated by Anas : "The Messenger of Allaah
gave a feast on the morning of his wedding night with Zainab, at which
he fed the Muslims to satisfaction on bread and meat. Then, he went out to the
Mothers of the Believers (i.e. to his other wives), gave them greetings
and prayed for them, which they returned in kind. This is the way
he used to do on the morning after a wedding night." [Ibn Sa'd and
an-Nasaa'ee: Saheeh].
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